What makes a true friend? A friend gives, even when it is hard to do. A friend helps, even when it is difficult. A friend patiently endures hard times. A friend shares their secrets with you. But never reveals your secrets to others. A friend … Continue reading The 7 Qualities of a True Friend
download One problem in meditation begins with one of the very first instructions we get in meditation. “Watch the breath without trying to control it.” Now, this is partly true. We are not doing pranayama style breath control. We are not forcing the breath to … Continue reading Controlling the Breath
The highest wisdom comes from two things: serenity and insight.
Develop your serenity, and you strengthen your mind. You are freed from desire.
Develop contemplation, and your strengthen your wisdom. You are freed from ignorance.
Desire and ignorance enslave you! Free yourself with serenity and contemplation.
from Anguttara Nikaya 2s (II, iii, 10)
What does unhappiness feel like? It’s worth a look! I think you’ll find that when we’re most unhappy is when we’re mulling over the past. Our mistakes, our embarrassments. Or worrying about the future. Will I be fired? Will my kids be alright? Really remember … Continue reading What Makes Us Happy?
If just for an instant, for the length of a finger snap, you arouse the feeling of loving kindness and develop it, then your are truly a contemplative. You do not meditate in vain. You are truly following the advice of the Buddha. You deserve the kindness given you. How much better if you cultivate that loving kindness!
from Anguttara Nikaya 1s (I, vi, 3-5)