Relying on others. Isn’t that just what we do as human beings? True, but relying on others is a sure recipe for disappointment and pain. Here’s what the Buddha had to say about the matter.
Once the Buddha was living near Savatthi at the monastery on the estate of Visakha (Migara’s mother). Visakha was doing some business with King Pasenadi, the king of Kosala, but he was giving her trouble.
Around noontime, Visakha went to visit the Buddha. The Buddha asked, “Why have you come to visit me in the middle of the day?”
She responded, “I am doing some business with King Pasenadi, but he is giving me trouble.”
The Buddha understood immediately, and offered this little poem:
“Anything within someone else’s control is problematic.
Anything under our control is pleasing
What is shared is troublesome
A yoke is difficult to transcend.”
-Visakha Sutta, Udana 2.9